Divorce Discussions with Your Children

Deciding to get a divorce is difficult. And going through a divorce may feel difficult. However, some parents say that the divorce process is not nearly as hard as talking to their children about it. If you have decided to seek a divorce from your spouse, you need to think about how to tell your children about the divorce and then develop a discussion plan beforehand. Think about how your children may feel and how you will provide reassurances prior to the discussion. This approach will take a great deal of the stress you may feel about telling your children because you will be prepared. The way that you and your spouse discuss the divorce with your children can make a significant difference in the way that they handle it. It is important to be as honest with your children as you can be, without saying harmful things about your spouse or partner. Ideally, you would sit down with your children as a couple and present a united and amicable front as parents. They must know you love them and that you will always be there. This will provide them comfort. It is important for divorcing mothers and fathers to put their differences aside when around their children. Remember although you may no longer be married, you will be co-parents and your children will want to see a unified front.

Also, let your children ask any questions they may have and answer them as truthfully, but without anger, as possible. Make sure they know they can come to you directly and that they will be met with love and empathy. While you may not be able to answer all of their questions, you have at least provided them with a forum to discuss their feelings. Do you have plans to file for divorce in Los Angeles or San Diego? Will child custody play a role in the termination of your marriage? If so, contact Claery & Green now to get immediate assistance from a Los Angeles family law attorney that can assist you and support you as you go through your California divorce proceedings.