Pre-teen children are at a special age where they are especially vulnerable
to emotional damage as a result of
divorce. That is why it is essential to be very careful when establishing a
child custody plan for children of this age. According to the Los Angeles Superior Court,
the years between 10 and 13 are very important in a child's life when
the young one does not feel that he or she is a child, but is not fully
a teenager. This transitional period is typically a time when children
crave security that comes from family connection.
Protecting Your Child's Emotional Health in a Divorce
That's why parents need to develop a neutral, child-focused and age-appropriate
explanation for separation or divorce. Parents should also encourage their
pre-teens to express problems that they are dealing with about the separation
or divorce and should try to talk them through these struggles. It is
also important for parents to support their child's need to spend
time with the other parent in the separation. Allow your child to express
positive feelings about the other parent, and work hard to remain neutral
in your relationship with your ex for the child's sake.
Also, the Los Angeles Superior Court suggests that parents help their child
balance time among parents and other family commitments. It is important
to reassure your child that the problems you have between you and your
ex-spouse are not the young one's fault. Many pre-teens may assume
that they are the cause for a serious divorce. Children will also feel
overwhelmed and frustrated if they are not able to fix complicated problems
that they are dealing with.
Do you want assistance in creating a custody plan for children of this
age? Talk with a Los Angeles family attorney at
Claery & Green, LLP today!