If you're like a lot of people, the concept of divorce can be utterly
terrifying to you. Ending a marriage is difficult, even if it truly is
"for the best." What if you don't have to go to war? What if your
divorce doesn't have to adversely affect your family for years to come?
If the concept of an adversarial divorce scares you, there is a better
way. It doesn't have to be extremely painful, and if you can get your
spouse on board, you
can achieve what's becoming known as the "good divorce."
Celebrities are Doing It, So You Can Too
If you've read the headlines, you may have noticed that there's
been a bunch of high-profile celebrities filing for divorce this year.
People may have mocked Gwyneth Paltrow for her "conscious uncoupling"
or Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner for vacationing as a family after their
split, but when you take a look at it, these positive attitudes are better
for the kids and there is something to be learned from these amicable splits.
While distance from one's ex can be nice, more divorcing parents are
intentionally living close to each other, sometimes even walking distance
apart. This way the kids have easy access to both parents and the separation
anxiety is greatly minimized.
Resolving your legal issues without a costly divorce war is smart, and
we're seeing it more in our office. Otherwise, a protracted legal
battle can drain retirement accounts, and leave less for the divorce settlement.
Divorces don't have to end that way.
Mediation is an excellent option that more couples need to consider. It can be completed
quickly and it's much less expensive than divorce litigation.
Essentially, achieving a "good divorce" means the couple has
to adjust their attitudes towards the breakup. No matter who ended the
marriage or why, it's over. The best thing to do is move forward,
and try to be as fair and respectful to one another as possible, and to
maintain those attitudes for years to come.
Of course, it takes two so both spouses have to agree in order to effectively
good divorce, one that all of your divorced friends and colleagues will envy.
Call Claery & Hammond, LLPfor a free consultation with a Los Angeles