If you fell hopelessly in love with an "addict," or someone who
developed an addiction to alcohol, pain killers, drugs, or even sex while
you were married, you may have found yourself at the end of your rope.
In fact, there's a good chance that you held on too long, that you
tried desperately to help your spouse overcome their demons only to realize
have to want to help themselves, and it's just not happening. If you have children
together, it's understandable why you may have been trying hard for so long.
While we're not marriage counselors, therapists, or psychologists,
as divorce attorneys we have seen our fair share of spouses whose marriages
were destroyed by addiction, and it's not always due to drugs or alcohol.
It can be an addiction to gambling, or even a wife's unhealthy relationship
with food, leading to anorexia, frequent hospitalizations, and a husband
who just can't take it anymore. While some would say that such a husband
is wrong to give up on his wife during a time of mental illness, they
haven't walked in his shoes.
Addiction is a Whole Other Animal
You have unhappy couples who struggle with infidelity and money problems,
then you have addiction, which is a whole other animal. It's often
accompanied by lying and stealing in order to fund the addiction. It can
also lead to cheating, beating, and behaving irresponsibly while under
the influence of drugs or alcohol.
From draining the family's savings account, to driving drunk with the
kids in the car, to getting fired from multiple jobs, addiction can wreak
havoc on a marriage, and it's usually the spouse who takes the brunt
of whatever addiction is involved.
Loving someone with an addiction can leave the spouse feeling frustrated,
helpless, and angry that they can't save their marriage or their family.
These feelings can be intensified when the addict refuses to acknowledge
their problem or seek help.
When addiction leads to divorce there aren't any winners. If nothing
can save the marriage, divorce is often the next step. Sadly, addiction
leads to endless tragedies, with one of them being the breakup of families.
divorce and addiction?
Contact a Los Angeles divorce lawyer from Claery & Green, LLP for help. We are here to guide you every
step of the way.