If you're going through a divorce, the holidays, especially the days themselves, can be emotionally difficult. The loss of a job, a death in the family, and the death of a marriage…they all trace back to a loss, and dealing with the holidays at the same time only worsens the blow.
Divorce is different than other losses. You're not going to get sympathy cards, and some people won't feel right bringing it up, so they won't mention the divorce at all, leading to some uncomfortable encounters and awkward silences.
Here are a few tips for navigating the holidays while you're still in the midst of divorce:
1. Build a support network.
Hire a good divorce team – this way you can be confident that your
best interests are protected. Hire a divorce attorney, a financial advisor,
CPA, and counselor.
2. Remind yourself that it will get better.
If this is your first holiday season alone, remember that it will get
better. If you're feeling down, it's only natural so don't
be hard on yourself.
3. Have some fun!
Get out and have some fun; it can be the best therapy. Whether that means
reconnecting with old friends, going dancing, taking a weekend trip, or
spending quality time with your kids, having fun will do your mind, body
and health some good!
4. Accept that some days will not be good.
Divorce can be very stressful, so accept that there will be good days
and there will be bad days. If you're having a bad day, remember that
it's normal to have your ups and downs.
If you don't feel like leaving the house, consider taking a walk, delving into a good book, or watching reruns of your favorite show – anything that might lift your spirits.
5. Don't depend on alcohol.
Drinking alcohol when you're stressed can worsen anxiety, depression
and insomnia. Like all things, if you indulge, do so in moderation.
6. Get out and move!
One of the best antidotes for stress is exercise. Hit the gym, take a
hike or a walk, or enroll in that boot camp class you've been thinking
about. Exercise reduces stress, aids in weight loss, improves sleep, increases
energy, and naturally boosts immunity.
7. Do your holiday shopping online.
Avoid the crowded malls by doing most, if not all of your holiday shopping
online. With so many free shipping options, you can save loads of time
and avoid the stress of shopping in stores.
8. Focus on others.
If you're feeling down, volunteer at a charity that's dear to
your heart. Whether you're collecting toys for poor children or feeding
the homeless, it'll feel good to help others – plus you could
use a distraction.
9. It's all about the kids.
If you have kids and you're going through a divorce, remember that
it's all about the kids. Focus on them having a special holiday, even
if it means that you're missing yours.
If you need a Los Angeles divorce lawyer, contact us for a free consultation!
