There are so many faces of
divorce. You could be one of those couples that can't stand to be in the same
room with each other, or perhaps you've managed to "stay friends."
In either scenario, there's a few things that you need to prepare
for because they'll likely happen whether you have a
good divorce or a
It takes time to put your life back together.
Even if you have a great career and a cushy savings, it doesn't mean
you'll bounce back as soon as the ink dries on the divorce papers.
In reality, it will take at least a year or two to adjust to the new normal.
It's going to hit you physically.
The stress of divorce almost always impacts the body. From insomnia to
anxiety, weight loss and weight gain, to nausea, you can expect your physical
well-being to be affected. That said, exercise and eat right and stay
away from too much junk food and alcohol.
It's an emotional roller coaster.
It would be folly to think any different. Prepare yourself: you may be
grief-stricken one moment, enraged the next, and then on cloud nine. It's
an emotional roller coaster, but try to manage your feelings around your
spouse, your children, and everyone else.
Be kind and press on.
If you have kids, you're going to see your ex-spouse and probably
more than you like, but you have to get used to it. When you see your
ex during drop-offs or pick-ups or events for your kids, expect to feel
uncomfortable or stressed out.
It's hard to know how to act or what to say, but keep the conversation
light and polite. You want to cut the tension and learn how to be around
one another without drama or awkwardness.
Your ex may still drive you insane.
If there were flaws about your ex that drove you insane while you were
married, don't expect those flaws to go away. They might even bother
you more than before. Instead of letting their flaws annoy you, learn
to accept their "flaws" and overlook them so you can focus on
the bigger picture, such as co-parenting your children so the kids are
happy and emotionally stable.
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