Now that it's January, gyms aren't the only ones with their phones ringing off the hook. With so many unhappy couples calling a "cease fire" during the holidays, divorce attorneys across the nation have entered into "divorce month."
Is it because spouses wait until after the holidays to file for divorce, or is it because the holiday stress sends them over the edge, until everything comes to a blow? A little of both actually.
Generally, couples who want to divorce toward the end of the year want to wait until after the holidays before they pull the trigger, especially when they have kids. This is completely understandable.
Sometimes though, it's dealing with each other's families, drinking too much, realizing how unimportant one's spouse makes them feel, or seeing how one's spouse "deals" with stress that confirms the inevitable, that a husband or wife is not happy and they want out.
What about you? Now that the holidays have come and gone, are you contemplating divorce? Should you stay or should you go?
Questions to Ask Yourself
Divorce is ONE thing that you don't want to rush into, especially when you have children together. If you're seriously considering dropping the "D" bomb, we want you to ask yourself the following questions:
- Is this just a phase that I am going through?
- Have I discussed my feelings with my spouse?
- Have I tried everything to repair my marriage?
- How does my spouse treat me and our children?
- What do I expect to do with my life after the divorce?
- How will a divorce affect our children (if any)?
- Does my spouse build me up or tear me down?
- Is my spouse willing to work things out?
If after asking yourself these questions, it's abundantly clear that a divorce is still the best thing for you and your family, go for it. On the other hand, if you think that you've been under a lot of stress and you want to reconsider that divorce, take a step back and evaluate the positives of your relationship. Then, decide where to go from there.
No matter which path you choose, what's important is that you are happy in the end.
If you decide that you need to talk to a Los Angeles divorce attorney, don't hesitate to contact us for a free case evaluation.