If you are getting a
divorce, you may not be 100% certain about how
child custody will work out. If
domestic violence is not an issue, will one of you have the children more than the other parent?
Or, will you both share custody of the children? If you will be working
out a joint custody arrangement, you may go from seeing your child every
day to every other week, or something to that effect. Meaning, you may
get less face time with your children than you had before the divorce.
As a parent heading for divorce, we hope that whatever
your upbringing, or family situation has been up until this point, that you will not use
divorce as an excuse to become less involved in your children’s
lives. Rather, you will use this golden opportunity to become
more engaged in your children’s lives than before.
Your children need two caring parents in their lives. That being said,
following these tips will go a long way in maintaining a close bond with
your children after the divorce is said and done:
1. Show your children affection.
Children crave love and attention in the form of hugs and kisses, especially
youngsters. When parents communicate, “I love you” or “I’m
glad you’re my son or daughter,” it builds security and confidence
2. Be supportive and encouraging.
When your child talks, listen. When they talk about their problems, hopes
or aspirations, be supportive and encourage them to pursue their ambitions.
Children need support and encouragement, and it shows that you care.
3. Spend quality time with your children.
Put down the smartphone, log off Facebook and take a walk with your child,
cook dinner together, go camping or to the beach, or tune into a movie
on Netflix. What your children really need is quality “time”
with you, not the latest video game. Spending time with your child expresses
that they are more important than your work or social life.
4. Offer parental advice.
Whether children want to admit it or not, they desperately need their
parents’ advice. Having heart-to-heart conversations with your child
will make them feel loved and secure, especially when they’re struggling
5. Teach values and integrity.
Children need guidance and a moral campus; it can be very difficult for
them to figure things out on their own. It’s critical that parents
teach their children about honesty, values and integrity. Since children
mirror their parents, one of the best ways to raise an emotionally stable
child is to be a good role model and “practice what you preach.”
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