Hard Truths About Divorce

There are so many faces of divorce. You could be one of those couples that can't stand to be in the same room with each other, or perhaps you've managed to "stay friends." In either scenario, there's a few things that you need to prepare for because they'll likely happen whether you have a good divorce or a bad one.

1. It takes time to put your life back together.
Even if you have a great career and a cushy savings, it doesn't mean you'll bounce back as soon as the ink dries on the divorce papers. In reality, it will take at least a year or two to adjust to the new normal.

2. It's going to hit you physically.
The stress of divorce almost always impacts the body. From insomnia to anxiety, weight loss and weight gain, to nausea, you can expect your physical well-being to be affected. That said, exercise and eat right and stay away from too much junk food and alcohol.

3. It's an emotional roller coaster.
It would be folly to think any different. Prepare yourself: you may be grief-stricken one moment, enraged the next, and then on cloud nine. It's an emotional roller coaster, but try to manage your feelings around your spouse, your children, and everyone else.

4. Be kind and press on.
If you have kids, you're going to see your ex-spouse and probably more than you like, but you have to get used to it. When you see your ex during drop-offs or pick-ups or events for your kids, expect to feel uncomfortable or stressed out.

It's hard to know how to act or what to say, but keep the conversation light and polite. You want to cut the tension and learn how to be around one another without drama or awkwardness.

5. Your ex may still drive you insane.
If there were flaws about your ex that drove you insane while you were married, don't expect those flaws to go away. They might even bother you more than before. Instead of letting their flaws annoy you, learn to accept their "flaws" and overlook them so you can focus on the bigger picture, such as co-parenting your children so the kids are happy and emotionally stable.

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