Very few things in life are as difficult as going through a divorce. In fact, it is believed the only thing more emotionally stressful and taxing than filing for divorce is the death of a spouse or child.
Many people find themselves struggling with depression, anxiety, or general distress following a divorce. But just because a marriage has ended doesn’t mean your life has ended as well. If you have recently gone through a divorce and are a having a hard time, consider the advice given by Therese Borchard, an author and psychology expert. Borchard suggests the following steps will raise your spirits and help you get through the days, weeks, and months following a divorce:
- Center your mind on something you love doing. Too often people dwell on the divorce, which only makes it that much more difficult to get over. Preoccupy your mind by doing something you enjoy so you don’t spend your free time analyzing every aspect of the divorce—you will drive yourself crazy if you do!
- Change up your routine. This can be as simple as picking up a new hobby, starting a new exercising routine, or instituting a bi-monthly dinner date with your friends. Doing something new is a good way to remind yourself that life isn’t over just because your marriage didn’t last.
- Plan away! Roberta Temmes, a psychotherapist, says that planning is highly therapeutic during tough times. The planning process forces people to divert their attention away from what is making them sad or depressed (in this case a divorce), and focus that attention on the planning at hand. Planning also gives people control over the situation, which is particularly empowering for people who may feel defeated following a divorce. Temmes says planning anything is helpful, whether it be an elaborate dinner party or planning a trip to the car wash.
- Clean and organize your home. Go through each room of your house and get rid of anything that belongs to your ex or that reminds you of your ex. Cleansing is also very therapeutic, and once you’re done cleaning you will have more room for the new things in your life. Reorganizing your home is a good way to make your home feel fresh and new again. People who are starting over often find this helps them move on faster.
- Take the high road. Anytime you take the high road you will feel better about yourself. Although there might be some immediate satisfaction in seeking revenge on your spouse, it won’t do you any good in the long run. Save your energy for things that make you happy.
If you have decided to file for divorce, please don’t hesitate to contact a Los Angeles divorce lawyer at Claery & Hammond, LLP. We can protect your rights and make sure you are provided with the support you need to get through this difficult time.
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