Very few things in life are as difficult as going through a divorce. In
fact, it is believed the only thing more emotionally stressful and taxing
than filing for
divorce is the death of a spouse or child.
Many people find themselves struggling with depression, anxiety, or general
distress following a divorce. But just because a marriage has ended doesn’t
mean your life has ended as well. If you have recently gone through a
divorce and are a having a hard time, consider the advice given by Therese
Borchard, an author and psychology expert. Borchard suggests the following
steps will raise your spirits and help you get through the days, weeks,
and months following a divorce:
Center your mind on something you love doing. Too often people dwell on the divorce, which only makes it that much
more difficult to get over. Preoccupy your mind by doing something you
enjoy so you don’t spend your free time analyzing every aspect of
the divorce—you will drive yourself crazy if you do!
Change up your routine. This can be as simple as picking up a new hobby, starting a new exercising
routine, or instituting a bi-monthly dinner date with your friends. Doing
something new is a good way to remind yourself that life isn’t over
just because your marriage didn’t last.
Plan away! Roberta Temmes, a psychotherapist, says that planning is highly therapeutic
during tough times. The planning process forces people to divert their
attention away from what is making them sad or depressed (in this case
a divorce), and focus that attention on the planning at hand. Planning
also gives people control over the situation, which is particularly empowering
for people who may feel defeated following a divorce. Temmes says planning
anything is helpful, whether it be an elaborate dinner party or planning
a trip to the car wash.
Clean and organize your home. Go through each room of your house and get rid of anything that belongs
to your ex or that reminds you of your ex. Cleansing is also very therapeutic,
and once you’re done cleaning you will have more room for the new
things in your life. Reorganizing your home is a good way to make your
home feel fresh and new again. People who are starting over often find
this helps them move on faster.
Take the high road. Anytime you take the high road you will feel better about yourself. Although
there might be some immediate satisfaction in seeking revenge on your
spouse, it won’t do you any good in the long run. Save your energy
for things that make you happy.
If you have decided to file for divorce, please don’t hesitate to
Los Angeles divorce lawyer at Claery & Hammond, LLP. We can protect your rights and make sure
you are provided with the support you need to get through this difficult time.
(310) 817-6904to arrange a consultation with an attorney at the office today!