If you intend to co-parent with a spouse after divorce, you will want to
mentally prepare for what could be a difficult journey. Even if you are
amicable with your spouse, you will be spending extensive time with him
or her making very important decisions about your child's future.
The first key for successful co-parenting is to always put the children first.
If you and your spouse get caught up with achieving your own desires in
the parenting arrangement, you will most likely end up frustrated and
irritated. The children will also be irritated, and your arrangement may
be ineffective. Instead, we suggest that you always make sure that your
child's interests are the top priority and unite around this common goal.
Also, it is helpful to make your co-parenting arrangement "official"
with a court-order. This can help to state your parenting plan in writing.
Also, if one spouse fails to follow through on his or her end of the parenting
plan, a court order can hold that individual accountable. Violating a
court ordered parenting plan can result in criminal or civil penalties.
Co-parenting will be easier if you live near the co-parent. Long travel
distances can make co-parenting difficult, and will be particularly hard
on the children. Also, it is essential that you communicate with your
ex-spouse if you are going to make decisions together about the children's
well-being. Be willing to sit down and talk things out if you want to
ensure fair parenting plans.
If you run into complications with co-parenting, the
Los Angeles family attorneys at Claery & Green can help. We are a professional team that is focused
on getting results. Don't hesitate to contact us today if you want
to get a court-order regarding your co-parenting plan or are seeking to
alter your parenting plan.