Divorce can be a hard decision for many families, especially for couples that still have a friendly relationship. Unfortunately, this leads many couples to assume that they should simply stick it out and avoid divorce, even if they are not romantically and emotionally fulfilled in their marriage. In many cases, the decision to divorce does not have to do with what aspects of the relationship are still working. Rather, it matters what is not working and whether or not anything can be done to fix what is broken.
What should I expect from a divorce?
In many cases, the decision to divorce is not 100% certain. Couples may find themselves having moments where they wonder if splitting from one another makes sense. It is rarely the case that a relationship has zero redeeming qualities, but that does not mean that a couple must stay together forever and look over all other glaring incompatibilities.
Things to recognize when thinking about divorce:
- Just because you don't hate a spouse doesn't mean you can't file for divorce.
- Life will completely change after a divorce has been filed.
- Many good aspects will be removed along with the bad, but it is worth it.
- Having a friendship with a spouse after divorce is not impossible.
- There is no need for life to completely unravel because of divorce.
When all of these things can be accepted, recognizing the need for divorce may be easier. In addition, it can help eliminate some of the preconceived notions of divorce that prevents a spouse from filing to begin with. Once it can be reconciled that the reason for the divorce is to achieve the best possible life, rather than settle, it is often much easier for an individual to make the decision to end their marriage.