The emotional and financial toll of divorce can be significant, and no matter what, there are going to be headaches along the way, especially if you have children together. From communicating via email, to saying "thank you" as much as possible, read on for some tips on making your divorce a little easier.
1. Communicate with your ex via email.
You may not want to talk to your ex when your emotions are raw from the divorce. If you have kids together, there's no choice. A way to keep the communication lines open without getting on the phone is to communicate with your ex through emails.
Stick to topics such as the kids' education, health, extracurricular activities and the reinforcement of discipline. If you keep things light and keep your ex in the loop, it can really make things easier!
2. It's all about the kids.
In the grand scheme of things, you want to do what's in the best interests of your kids. View your ex as a "co-parent," instead of an opponent.
Change their name in your contacts to just that – co-parent. That way, every time you see their name when they call or text, you'll have a visual reminder that your relationship is about the kids. That could subconsciously make for more productive conversations.
3. Get rid of stuff that reminds you of your ex.
Chances are, you have items that trigger memories of your marriage. An old suit or dress that you wore on your anniversary. A gift they gave you for your birthday. Consider decluttering items that remind you of your ex – out with the old and in with the new!
4. Say "thank you."
View you and your ex as a team, and if they are in a new relationship, you have another team member. A simple "thank you" can go a long way when it comes to fostering a healthy and strong co-parenting relationship.