Shocking Things About Divorce Part 2

Earlier this month, we published a post entitled, “Shocking Things About Divorce.” This month we decided to come out with a sequel where we share even more insight about what happens behind closed doors. If you can relate to these issues discussed below and you’re seeking divorce advice, don’t hesitate to contact our firm for guidance.

1. If you marry young, your chances of divorce are higher.
In the United States, 59 percent of women who marry before the age of 18 will be divorced before their 15th wedding anniversary. For women who marry at the age of 20 or older, the rate of divorce drops down to 36 percent, according to “Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States,” by M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher.

Regardless of age, the rate of divorce for first marriages is 40 to 50 percent, according to Psychology Today. If you’ve been divorced once already, your chances of divorcing is higher with each subsequent marriage.

2. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
When it comes to how the sexes approach divorce that is. In our experience, men tend to want to get things over with, while women need more time to think things through. Women are usually concerned about security, so they’ll place a great deal of focus on child supportspousal support, housing, health insurance, life insurance, and taxes. Men tend to be less detail-oriented, which can lead to clashes.

3. Your social media posts can haunt you.
These days, divorce attorneys turn to social media for evidence. If you’re battling over child custody or spousal support, your social media posts can hurt your divorce case. For example, if you’re a man who’s arguing that you can’t afford spousal support, posting a pic on Facebook of your new Ford F-450 or you vacationing in Hawaii with a beautiful, twenty-something will NOT help your case.

4. This is the secret to successful co-parenting.
The fear of parental alienation strikes fears in the hearts of parents on the verge of divorce. If you have minor children with your spouse and you’re afraid, perhaps terrified of the divorce ruining your relationship with your children, we have good news. It is possible to have a great bond with your children after divorce. The secret? It all comes down to having a good relationship with the other parent. If you and your soon-to-be-ex can get along for the sake of the kids, you can develop a healthy and thriving co-parenting relationship. One where your relationship with your children remains strong.

Contact Claery & Hammond, LLP to meet with a San Diego divorce lawyer for free.